And to be honest my rage comes from experience and past hurt.
I'm not sure if this is as big of a problem for guys as for girls... but i'm sure everyone can read and relate.
We all know of girls who have a few close friends, and when those girls get boyfriends.... their close friends are dropped. Sounds kind of middle school, doesn't it? It happens all of the time.
This doesn't happen to every girl with a boyfriend, but it sadly happens to a lot of girls with boyfriends.
I understand in a relationship.... your boyfriend is top priority.... there's more time spent together than with others... and that's fine and normal.
But all of your time does not need to be taken up by your man... in fact that's not even healthy.
Let me put this into perspective for you: you're not married. You know what i see? A relationship that fails and a girl who goes back to a bunch or angry friends... or you know what... enemies. Because trust me, they will not want to be around you anymore. It sounds harsh.. but it's true. Imagine the situation reversed. How would you feel?
And you know what's almost as awful? You may finally hang out with the friends who keep asking and asking to have time with you... but during that time... all you do is text and talk about your boyfriend.
There's a slap in the face. What a waste of time.
We all understand the excitement of a relationship. We are excited for you... but be considerate. It's hurtful to your friends when you don't care about them the way they care about you.
And you know they're constantly asking to spend time with you... and your excuses pile up, and it's a one-sided friendship. The only source of friendship you allow is from those who are willing to go on double dates with you and your boyfriend.... and that won't always count because he's there.
If you want nothing to do with your old friendships... please just tell them and save them from having to put energy into trying to be your friend.
The following bible verses related to these kind of situations:
"So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 7:12
"Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. And love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these." Mark 12:30-31
The two greatest commandments are so easy to forget. We all get so caught up in what the world has to offer us, and how a boy makes us feel. Girls like when they get attention from boys. They like it so much that their friends soon become meaningless. God may even become meaningless. It's sad.
I can't help but want nothing to do with the people that act this way. I feel bad because i want to be loyal and loving. But i think there's a difference between having space from someone and shutting someone out.
A common trait i've noticed with people who act this way is when the subject is subtly brought up they get very offended, over-sensitive, and angry. So it's not worth the fight.
I don't want to put effort in what seems to be a "lost cause" ... i'm not saying a forever lost cause.... but only presently. There's so much maturing to be done, and when i see girls who act like that i can't help but get frustrated. I want to yell at them and hurt them like they've hurt me and so many other people. But it's not about what i want, and i need to practice what i preach.
If you're someone i know and you feel personally attacked as you read this... first of all, if you bring it up to me... i'm going to be blunt with you and you're not going to be happy, but i hope you know i'm not directing this blog entry at specifically you. Yes, i could think of 5 people off the bat that do this crap, but no, that's not why i'm posting.
I'm posting this for the girls who could be you one day. I'm posting this for the girls who want to abandon you one day. And i'm posting this for me because i'm sick of your behavior.
Please just stop and think: how would i feel?
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